Westerners have come to associate Tantra with Erotic Massage - however that understanding has evolved on this side of the planet, that’s indeed what I do. But, I am truly certified in Tantric studies, meditation and breath work, along with many other disciplines related or closely tied.

I come from a background very diversified in somatic work and, from the modelling and dance worlds, which both come with a strict physical practice of diet and exercise, and a truly polished appearance. Whatever your expectations, I will far exceed them, and that’s a promise.

So when you book me, you get a blend of traditional techniques, plus, the modern erotic elements you’re looking for in a sensual provider. And let’s be real: while we’ll go deep, I’m not adverse to sharing a drink with you afterwards, in my fully stocked bar in my studio! You are after all, booking a good time!

All my Tantra massages are breath guided, chakra inspired, and I offer two way touch at my pace and discretion, for a truly slow, immersive and connected experience.

I am fully present for each minute we are together, and my joy comes from watching you engage, relax and truly lose yourself in pleasure. However, please know that I do not kiss, or allow oral contact on either of us, nor do I permit penetration of me.

I am in my early 50’s, am 5’10 tall and while curvy, I am strong and muscular. I have no implants, piercings or tattoos. I am a natural 36DD, 29 waist, 39 hips. I enhance my natural long red hair with a bit of copper fire, and have hazel-green eyes.

I have been in the somatic world for over 25 years, and have been doing erotic work for 5 years. I maintain a beautifully decorated, lush, extremely discrete lower level near the Kensington Market area of downtown Toronto. It’s been likened to a Moroccan Boudoir; A plush cocoon of velvet curtains, soft textures, and candlelit ambiance. You can see pictures in my Gallery.

My fully equipped bathroom has mostly unscented products for you.

My fully stocked bar has your favourite single malt or shot of whatever your heart desires, for after your session, if you wish.

Being open to a genuinely grounded and authentic experience with me is a great beginning.

Your concise and respectful emails between us makes me eager to meet you.

Sending ID first is required, and once I confirm receipt of that and set a date, a deposit is next. (More on that in the How to be a Stellar Guy section ;-)

Once ID and the virtually collected deposit is out of the way, most of the time, I accept the remainder of my contribution in cash. Please place it within clear view of me once we meet each other. I find it awkward to have to ask.

Then, when the moment arrives, paying close attention to your hygiene is appreciated. I love spending time with all kinds of people, and am happy to see you regardless of race, age, body type, gender or ability. Just note that if booking a massage, my table has a weight limit of 275 lbs/125 kilos and improvisations must be made.

Deposits are to secure my time with you. It is required for every booking with me. If we are booked, that time is all yours. I have planned and prepared for you and only you. If you cancel within 48 hours, I do not scramble to schedule someone else. I lose that time. That is why the deposit is not only required, but a non negotiable.

Why do I insist on your ID? I need to know who you are for obvious safety reasons. It is also non negotiable. (More on that in the How to be a Stellar Guy section below)

There’s a few wonderful things you can do when you communicate with me. You keep your intro respectful, short and with all the details, and you make sure you’re not asking questions to which the answers can be easily found on my website. I’m all about bringing the energy and excitement to our in-person meeting, not emails.

Your identification is for my safety and peace of mind. It’s also to make sure you’re not my neighbour or my insurance broker. Yes, both of these have happened, and I refused the booking without telling them why, and kept their secret, secret. Your ID is going no-where but in front of my eyes. If you have a problem sending it, you clearly don’t respect my boundaries already, so please don’t waste my time messaging me. When a date and time has been settled on, send your ID and a deposit.

You are booking a genuine, elite experience with me. Be sober to enjoy it to it’s fullest.

Your hygiene is probably the biggest determining factor to my wanting to get close to you. If you haven’t vigorously scrubbed all skin surfaces and all crevices with soap and a washcloth, strangely something many don’t seem to do, you aren’t truly clean. Remember, I’m rubbing your skin, so make it sparkle please. :-) And nail care, teeth, grooming in general are also a must. You’d think these rather off-putting details wouldn’t be necessary to bring up here, and I really wish it wasn’t necessary to bring up as well. But you’d be surprised at just how common this problem is, even with the young, older, wealthy, the athletic, the mature, the successful. Blame your mother, blame chronic lack of time, I don’t know, but it’s a very real issue. So, don’t give me a reason to hold back with you!

Thanks for reading this. I’ve found these things are integral to making a great experience between us. I’m extremely easy going and my demeanour is calm, light hearted and sensuous. If you’ve made it easy to book me, I’ll make it a great experience for you, I promise.

And if you’re feeling generous, I do love gifts! https://throne.com/sofiasomer

Every session I offer is built on Tantric foundations. Massage, Red Tantra, my own creation BondaZen, and my work as a Domme all draw from the same principles.

My Domme sessions can move into harder terrain, or stay soft, slow, and sensual — the choice is yours, and I move fluidly to meet it.

What surprises people most is this: a Domme can be commanding and tender in the same breath. Spice and softness are not opposites in my hands — they coexist. If that intrigues you, I invite you to visit my other site and discover what that balance feels like for yourself.

https://www.dommesofia.com/